Thursday, December 10, 2009

Two Pink Lines

I'm not having twins (thank goodness!) but aren't these two the sweetest? picture from www.peekaboophotos.com.

Sam and I could not decide for the longest time whether we should have a fourth child. Honestly, I have had my hands completely full with three kids and Ryan might possibly have been the worst baby on the planet. No one believes me on this because he is an angel in public. But he is screamer and he didn't nap for a full year. And I had a really bad pregnancy with him. Sam and I were convinced he was sent as a sign that we were to never procreate again.


But somehow, someway I began to feel like I needed to have one more. Sam didn't want to. He was sure that my practically non-existent cooking and cleaning had no where to go but down if I had another kid. I assured him it wasn't getting any better even without one more. Further, he argued that our entire family couldn't ride in his jeep if we added another child. He honestly thought that was a valid reason to not have any more children.

I consulted friends and family. My friend Mandee told me I wasn't done until I had one too many. Others told me I had to try for a sister for Sammie. Still others told me I had my hands full and a mother knows her limits.

Somehow, I knew that despite the craziness at my house--the noise, the mess, the urine around the toilet, on the floor and up the walls in my kids' bathroom (Heaven help me if I get one more boy!) I had to do it. Because as much as I hate getting huge (and I will get huge) and as hard as newborns are, I know I will never regret having another child. I may always regret it if I don't.

The minute I got pregnant, it hit me that I already have one too many and I should have stopped at three. After a few weeks of sheer panic, I calmed down and began to be excited about this pregnancy.


Sammie has her heart set on a little sister and she has already told me she has no use for another brother. I've assured her that no matter what--we will always have the two of us--just the girls and we can go do fun things together. She replied that would be fun but that it would be even more fun with one more tiny little girl. She's right. But no matter the gender, I will be so happy with one more tiny, fuzzy, bundle of newborn love.

Here are some fun pictures of us telling our families at Thanksgiving. I was twelve weeks along and they were pretty shocked and excited:

My mom getting the news at Mimi's during Thanksgiving dinner.

Sam's mom getting the news at our home.

We told them we had some recent pictures of the kids are gave them these three pictures with the ultrasound photo on the bottom:




I'm too lazy to go find the ultrasound pic but you get the idea. I'm due June 8th!

26 comments:

Em said...

I love this post. It is very very beautiful.

The moms's reactions are too perfect!

Jen (and her men) said...

the pictures of telling the grandparents is absolutely priceless. i think you are awesome. you will never regret having this sweet baby :) well maybe you will, but only in brief moments of insanity!! ha!ha! i want one too :)

ps i think those are my friends babies in katie's picture. she's an amazing photographer!

Melissa Walker said...

I love your mom's face--so wonderful and she does look completely surprised! I have to say four is hard, but it is wonderful. I had to talk Paul into #4 and she's totally been worth it!

HAPPYHANERHOME said...

We told our family about our fourth on Thanksgiving too--it was met with mixed and worried reactions! LOL! I am due 6/25 (we currently have two boys one girl too, and Kya was quite possibly the worst baby ever, so I am with ya!) When are you due my fellow insane friend? Four feels complete to me. I pray the same feeling for you--not too many, just right! And even numbers are better for Disneyland rides. ;)

brooke said...

I am due June 8th!

marta said...

so super happy. i am really excited for you and it looks like the whole family is too. congrats!!!

Elizabeth said...

I just wasn't brave enough to have more than two (and I sort of had to talk Dave into the second)so I think you are brave and very very lucky.These pics are fantastic - the looks on the the grandparents faces is pure gold. Congrats again and just look forward to having the squishy new baby to hold and rock and feed and change... OK I'm stopping now.

joslyn said...

so exciting. congrats...i think. just kidding, your are more brave than i.

just wondering if you found a cute santa this year to get pictures with?

Kimmie said...

my problem is that i will never get that "done" feeling! i love newborns too much. but unless the big man upstairs has a surprise for braden, we are done. so sad, but true. im still hoping one day it could just happen and braden will have nothing to say but it was meant to be.

Laura B. said...

oh crap. I seriously thought that you were having twins at first and suffered an unnecessary panic attack.
After I calmed down, I loved reading this post! Yay for you!!! I love pregnancy stories and hearing how it came to be. (wait...not like that...you know what i mean!!)

Jill said...

I'm excited for you and think you're absolutely right that you'll never regret having another child, in fact it seems like it's often that last child who ends up being the great love of the family.

It's so cute that both sets of parents were so surprised!

alexandra said...

I love that you captured the moment telling your parents. (I told my in-laws on the phone.) I think that once you have 3, the 4th will be no big deal. I really do. Congrats!

Ashley said...

Great post. Reading it felt like chatting with you on the phone or something. That last pic of Ryan is so incredibly adorable. I don't believe that he was as bad as you say. It is so cute how Sammie wants a tiny girl to hang out with you guys. I am really glad you are having a fourth!

Mandee said...

Brooke, I love you and I'm so happy you are having one more. And Tara is right- even numbers are good for Disneyland ... and Sam LOVES Disneyland!

The Mostess said...

I believe he was bad. I remember that one pic of him all slumped over on the floor fake crying and causing all sorts of problems for you while demanding to be carried.

So excited--but not as excited as the moms! Sheer joy out of those two ladies.

Linde said...

What great pictures of you telling your parents! That is so fun. I know what you mean about feeling like you want to have one more...I wish we could have one more for Jacob, but don't think it is going to happen. So I'm settling for the next life when I will be perfect and not need any sleep. How much easier would that be when taking care of a baby! :)

Jill Tew said...

that's a cute way to announce. you captured great reactions. here's to hoping you get an angel 4th!

raina said...

congrats! i just have to say that reading that post made me tear up a bit. my husband and i are in the same boat-me wanting one more & him saying we're done. i keep telling him that i had always planned at least four so i didn't get to "fully prepare" for my third being my last. plus, i have the vagina so i get the final word. ;) congrats again.

Christie said...

You won't regret it. Kids are crazy, but they're the best things god invented. LOVE the photos of the grandmas finding out. That's half the fun!

D-dawg said...

YAY congratulations to you! I love that picture of your mom finding out- so sweet. I know you'll be able to do it. And you're right, you supposedly only regret the babies you didn't have. I'm hoping for a girl for Sammie!

Sarah said...

I love you. You just tell it how it is. Somehow you are even convincing me that I need to have another one. But then I start to get an moment of anxiety and realize that it must not be time yet. I am so excited for you guys. I loved how you told your parents as well. Very clever. Might have to steal that one, if we ever venture down the road toward #4. Hope you are feeling good!

Stephanie said...

What priceless reactions! I don't think my mom's reactions were quite so picture perfect...it was like what? Again? :) lol. I think she was thinking I was on my way to having 10 kids--those crazy Mormons, you know? ;) Ha!

Stephanie said...

By the way, I think it's normal to start off each pregnancy with a hormonal panic attack! What were we thinking?!! lol. I loved the car seating thought--we still have a couple of seats left in our car--maybe we should fill them... ;)

Linda said...

I just got home and read this post. I was just as surprised and thrilled as I looked!! You kept pretty mum about this one! We are all happy about more little "Warner/Harknesses" . . .as we can all see, they are gorgeous and spunky!

Dave and Christine said...

Congratulations! I saw your mom a couple days after you told them and I think she still had that expression on her face. Very cute!

Reximus said...

I was never consulted on your decision to procreate for a whopping fourth time. You shall have yet another manchild. Consult me on the 5th or suffer the consequences.