Growing up, Ashley and I referred to my dad as "Morris." In Ferris Beuller's Day Off, Cameron and Ferris totalled Cameron's dad's vintage Ferrari. Ashley and I always loved Cameron's line "When Morris gets home, he and I will have a little chat." I had plenty of times in high school and college waiting for my dad to get home so we could have a similar chat. And that is how we started calling my dad Morris.
I haven't called him that in years, but somehow, it still fits him. My dad is a dude that demands respect. Most of my boyfriends were afraid of him and for good reason. He doesn't play games. He is hilarious but can be pretty intimidating.
My dad means more to me each year. Now that I am a full fledged adult (35 for crying out loud) I understand a bit more about the sacrifices he made for me and still makes for me. Just recently, I had a friend over to my parents' house and he couldn't believe my dad drove the piece of crap that he drives. My dad is a federal magistrate judge and could drive any awesome car he wants. But he chooses to drive a beat up 94' Toyota Corolla with a bazillion miles on it. My mom got a brand new car last year. That's how he rolls. Material things are not important to him and he would rather my mom have money to spend on the grandkids, etc.
The last two years, I have been through a lot of emotional heartache. My mom and sister and friends have listened to me for hours and helped me work through a lot of it. But there were times (sometimes at 11:00 at night or the middle of his workday) that I needed to call my dad and get advice. And he always had the time and the best advice. My dad doesn't hold back. He will tell you exactly what he is thinking and sometimes it is hard to hear. But he is always right. And I know he loves me more than anyone (except maybe my mother) so I know he has my best interest at heart. He gave me the courage to pull the trigger on my divorce because he demanded happiness for me. He wouldn't allow me to stay in a situation where I wasn't going to be able to be happy. I love him for that.
Today, I am grateful for you, Dad. You have taught me what a real man is. You are strong in the gospel. You always lead out in our family and have high expectations for us in every area of our lives. I really appreciate the influence you are on my children.
Happy Father's Day!
Happy Father's Day to Sam, too, who is the father of my children. I will always love him for giving me four bright, beautiful, happy kids. They love him to pieces and I appreciate that he is a fun, involved, committed dad.
Happy Father's Day to the men who read this blog..yes both of you. haha. Good fathers make a huge impact in the lives of their children and I don't think we celebrate good dads enough. This is your day!